I completely agree, Lisa. It's sad that the response has often been to cut ties with children and grandchildren just when they need help most. I had an Aunt in a similar situation. It would seem far more productive for parents and the surrounding community to concentrate instead on providing the support and help that is needed by everyone involved (the young parents and the new baby) if they want to ensure that problems aren't perpetuated in the next generation. 

Gina,

I am the product of a 16 year old mother. In the South as it was in the 1960's my birthmother was given only one socially acceptable and legal option for her pregnancy..to move away to a state run, unwed mother's home and give me up for adoption.

I had a wonderful childhood with parents who were devoted to me and ready to be parents. When I met my birthmother I was 30, she was 46. There is no doubt to either of us that she did the right thing for both of us. Teen parenting is difficult even in the best of circumstances.

I don't know what the answer is. Maybe there isn't one, expect the obvious answer..be there for our girls and boy to give them the emotional support they need to make responsible decisions, whatever that decision turns out to be. And rally around the babies that result from these untimely unions.

Best Wishes,

Lisa